Occasionally flush with embarrassment is quite normal, but if it happens all the time, it can cause irritation. And at any age: at least during the transition period, at least in adolescence, at least in maturity. Not all people have the ability to noticeably blush (this is due to physiological features) and may be due to various reasons. In this article, we will try to figure out what the reasons are, and how to stop blushing for any reason.
Causes of redness
The problem of “flashing cheeks” most often appears for one of the following reasons:
Couperose
People talk about kuperosis if blood circulation is disturbed in the surface layers of the skin. It causes damage to small vessels located in this part of the skin, because of which they lose their elasticity and become more susceptible to negative external influences. In the case of rosacea, the skin reddens almost always: from constraint, from high temperatures, from low temperatures, and even for no particular reason. It looks like sprigs, branching thin red filaments-vessels, and is usually localized on the nose and cheeks.
When rosacea, you need to select the appropriate cosmetics, and preferably with the help of a professional cosmetologist. You should not ignore this problem, because in a neglected state it can lead to the formation of “spider veins” (numerous small bursting vessels) and the appearance of a noticeable capillary pattern, in which the redness will always be visible on the face. The treatment of such manifestations of rosacea is quite long and difficult, so it is better not to bring them to them.
Circulatory or nervous system problems
We combined these two reasons into one because they require the same solution – a visit to a doctor. Redness of the skin may be due to the fact that the blood circulation processes in the arteries and veins were disturbed, which can be regarded as a symptom of various diseases. In addition, the frequent appearance of red spots due to the expansion of blood vessels may indicate the need to adjust the work of the nervous system. Therefore, if the other reasons that you often blush and the ways to deal with them do not suit you, you should visit a therapist or a neurologist.
Emotional condition
Finally, the most common and embarrassing (paradoxically it may sound) cause of frequent reddening lies in the psychological aspect. Restraint, embarrassment, shame, fear, lack of self-confidence – all this makes one blush with or without reason and is almost uncontrollable. You would probably want to hide some kind of emotion from this part of the spectrum, but it was not there – the glowing cheeks immediately give out with all the giblets. Accordingly, to overcome this case, it is necessary to work with your embarrassment, constraint, and self-esteem.
How to stop blushing and embarrassing?
To begin with, being shy in some situations is absolutely normal for any person. Rather, it would be strange if this feeling never occurred to you. The only question is the frequency of embarrassment, which, if desired, can be “adjusted” to allow it only in really very difficult situations, and in the rest – not to allow it to take possession of you. To do this, use the following tips:
- Inhale-exhale. If you feel that emotions are rolling up, and shame is about to cover you with your head, take a deep breath and a long, completely “chasing” air out of your lungs. You can repeat it several times while trying to feel the “clips” that you have in your body. Embarrassment is almost never incorporeal; it certainly causes tension in one or another part of the body: for example, the jaws, neck, shoulders, and abdomen – each in its own way. Try, taking deep breaths and exhalations, to relax this tense part of the body, as if mentally “breathing through it”. And, most likely, after just a few breaths and exhalations, it will be much easier for you to stop blushing, because the embarrassment will no longer be felt as acutely as at the beginning.
- Look at the situation from the side. Those emotions that make us blush, as a rule, collapse the whole shaft, flow. For some period of time, we dwell on them and cannot think of anything else (although others, most likely, forget about the incident that took place just a few moments after that). To stop blushing, it may be useful to disconnect from personal involvement in the situation and look at it from the side. This requires a strong-willed effort (letting the embarrassment seize you wholly and completely by inertia is somewhat simpler), but it is not that difficult. And if you sort of move aside and look at what happened with “alien” eyes, then you will most likely understand that you have no particular reason for shame.
- Allow yourself a little shamelessness. Shame, embarrassment, embarrassment – these are emotions that arise in well-defined types of situations. These are situations where your or someone’s behavior goes against moral norms, with public perceptions, with images of “how to look decent”, and so on. It is logical to assume that the less your thoughts are subordinate to these frames, images and stereotypes, the less shame and embarrassment you will experience. This does not mean that it is necessary to completely reject all the rules of a civilized society. Rather, those in which there really is no point. For example, there is nothing really reprehensible in that you slip, put on a T-shirt backward, hiccup, uttering a solemn speech, or be five minutes late. This happens to everyone, and that’s fine.
- Just disconnect. Finally, if you still cannot manage the situation differently, you can simply disconnect from it. Tell yourself that you do not want to think now and react emotionally at the occasion that has confused you, and take up thoughts with something else. You can even click your fingers – it is unlikely that this gesture will seem too out of place to someone – simulating the sound of a switch. From excitement to calm. If it will be easier for you, you can promise yourself to return to thinking about and feeling this situation later. But, most likely, after a while, you no longer consider it necessary to do it, or you consider it, but you will no longer feel the shame and embarrassment that you originally had.
- Work on self-esteem and self-confidence. Perhaps – with the help of a psychologist. The more confident a person is, the more he values himself as he is, the easier it is for him to cope with embarrassing situations and stop blushing. There can be a lot of reasons why your self-esteem cannot cope with this task, so it’s not possible to consider them in a single article – even within psychotherapy, it can take more than a month to work them out. But you can start by helping yourself with additional means. A girl, for example, can be more comfortable in society if she has good make-up, manicure, and her hair is washed and laid. Although everything is very relative, and someone feels more confident if he read 50-100 pages of his favorite book in the morning. The point here is to do something that gives you a good footing and increases your sense of value.
And in conclusion, we note that it is easier to stop blushing when not only the thought in your head but also your body is in a good, healthy state. A healthy diet, regular exercise, compliance with the correct daily regimen, drinking enough water – all this strengthens the body and spirit and makes it possible, among other things, to endure awkward situations much easier.
